High vs. Low

Entitlement.

Why is it that some people feel like they are entitled to act a certain way?

For some reason THEY deserve "special" treatment, consideration, or time.

Walking all over others.

Its NOT cool, nor is it right.

We all are ENTITLED. Entitled to be treated like human beings; that are equal, living, breathing, logical and competent.

Nothing bothers me more then seeing someone treat another person who is in a "lower" position then them like garbage.

Weren't they there once too?

Even if they weren't... They dont know the reason that person is in that situation.

Probably, because they didnt have the same resources that you take for granted every single day... Jackass.

Just because you make more money, are more powerful, or more attractive DOESNT give you the right to treat someone like they are ANY less of a person then you are.

Another place that "entitlement" come into play is in relationships.

We ALL have had a boyfriend, family member, friend, co-worker that has acted like you owe them something.

The only thing you owe them is love, respect, and a chance to get to know them.

If you get to know them... and you realize you dont really like them, then once again you dont owe them anything.

You get to simply: move on with your life.

I can be the first person to vouch that its hard.

Its hard to assert yourself to other people...

I have had times in my life where I let people literally "walk all over me" pretending to be my "friends" when in reality they were taking advantage of the fact that I hate when people are mad at me.

A term we all know as "people pleaser"

Yes, I was. STILL AM....A people pleaser.

However, I now see things more clearly because I WAS used, I was hurt, and in the end I ended up being the one who was let down in the majority of situations.

It takes a lot for me to say no to someone or to stick up for myself when someone else is pushing me to do something I dont really do....

But, slowly I have been doing it more.

I am still in transition. Yes, at times I still let myself be walked on.

That doesnt mean that eventually I wont. I am in a stage of transformation.

I am becoming a stronger, better, and more self-assured adult.

Each day I learn that, there needs to be balance... You cant take others for granted; but you also cant take YOURSELF for granted either.

There has to be a line, between what is best for you- and what is best for them.

Because at the end of the day... ANYONE is capable of taking advantage.

No, they WILL take advantage- that is, if you let them.

No one is "entitled" to control you. Your life.  Other then you.

It is not right to treat anyone (friends, family, lovers, co-workers, etc.) as if you are "better" then them.

Entitlement is an ugly trait to have.

Its ok to be proud of yourself, confident in yourself, LOVE yourself.

Thats different....

Its not ok when you treat people like they are below you, like you are ALWAYS right, or that they owe you something.

Because they dont.

Especially if you are someone that isnt able to look at yourself and admit that you can be wrong.

People are in your life- simply because they choose to be.

If they choose to leave, you need to take a look at yourself and try to find WHY they keep leaving.

At the end of the day- once everyone is done putting up with it and has walked out of the door and there is no one left to blame....

Then what?

Your stuck wondering

"Why am I alone?"

Maybe because you never took the time to look at yourself. Maybe because you never realized maybe it was YOU not them that had to change.

Ive done things wrong. I have walked all over people- JUST as much as I have set out to please them.

I am human... I have taken advantage.

We ALL have.

 I am making a choice.  A choice to change those things about myself.

Too stop letting others take advantage of ME and to stop taking advantage of others.

I dont want to be alone.

I dont want to let someone feel used, unappreciated, or unloved.

I want them to RESPECT me and have nothing but GOOD things to say.

I KNOW I am not there yet.

But, at least I am on the path to be... and am able to admit that I can be wrong. And that I am not "entitled" to anything- or anyone.

I hope I never treat others as anything less then human. No matter who they are, where they come from, or what they have done.